Give & Take

“If you want to be a doormat you have to lay yourself down first.”

- Oscar Wilde -

Themes

Boundaries
People-Pleasing
Being A Doormat

Art Of Saying "No"
"Givers" & "Takers"
"Obligers"

Thinkers

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Adam Grant
Greg McKeown
Brené Brown

Gretchen Rubin
Tim Ferriss
Ryan Holiday

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IDEAS ABOUT...

Givers & Takers, By Adam Grant

Adam Grant
Are You a Giver, a Taker or a Matcher?

GoSmallBiz
The Dangers for Givers

Adam Grant
Avoiding the Doormat Effect: Set Boundaries

IDEAS ABOUT...

Getting Your Priorities Straight, by Greg McKeown

Matt D'Avella
Becoming An "Essentialist"

Matt D'Avella
The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less

Nelda Live
Trying To Please Too Many People

IDEAS ABOUT...

The "Obliger" Tendency, By Gretchen Rubin

RSA
Which Tendency Are You?

LinkedIn
Obligers Meet Outer But Not Inner Expectations

Gretchen Rubin
Obligers Don't Like Letting People Down

IDEAS ABOUT...

How To Go About Setting Boundaries, By the Holistic Psychologist

Nicole LePera
Boundaries: Why We need Them

Nicole LePera
A Beginner's Guide: Setting Boundaries

Nicole LePera
Do You HAve Boundaries Or Resentment?

IDEAS ABOUT...

People-Pleasing Vs Pleasing ourselves, By The School Of Life

The School Of Life

The School Of Life
The Roots Of People Pleasing

The School Of Life
The Dangers Of being The "Good" Child

The School Of Life
Why We Need To Be Bit More Selfish

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The School Of Life
Being Selfish Vs Selfless

D.I.Y. & TECHNIQUES

EFT (Tapping): People Pleasing & Setting Boundaries, By Brad Yates

brad Yates
Being A "People Pleaser"

Brad Yates
Setting Boundaries

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Brad Yates
Feeling Used (Taken Advantage of)

TIPS & WEBISODES

The Daily Stoic
Why & When to Say No, According To The Stoics

Dan Ariely
Learn The Art Of Saying NO

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Marie Forleo
Be Generous Without Being A Doormat

AUDIO EXTRACTS

The Tim Ferris Show
How to Say “No” Gracefully and Uncommit

Taken from Essentialism, by Greg McKeown.

PRH Audio
Chapter One: The Four tendencies

Taken from The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin.

jennie miller
Visualise Your Boundary

Taken from Boundaries, by Jennie Miller & Victoria Lambert.

QUOTES

"Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most."

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- Adam Grant

EXTRACTS

Adam Grant
Good Returns: The Dangers & Rewards of Giving More Than You Get

Taken from Give And Take, by Adam Grant.

dr. Henry cloud
What Are Boundaries?

Taken from Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Clous & Dr. John Townsend.

Susan Newman
How Much Of A People Pleaser Are You?

Taken from The Book Of No, by Susan Newman, PhD.

INSIGHT

Business INsider
How To Build Healthy Boundaries

HBR
Beat Generosity Burnout

The Telegraph
Don't keep saying yes: Why you need to stop being A People-Pleaser

ABC News
How To Give Without Burning Out

Psych Central
Keeping Good Boundaries & Getting Your Needs Met

bUSINESS inSIDER
The Difference Between Being A Successful Giver And A Total Doormat

Forbes
Staying Connected With Boundaries

Forbes
If You Have Trouble Saying 'No,' Then Say This Instead

OPrah
3 Ways To Set Boundaries, According To Brené Brown

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Thought Catalog
This Is How Setting Boundaries Makes Us Better, Not Weaker

D.I.Y.

Tim Ferriss
Revisit The "Terrible Twos"

Elizabeth Lesser
The Posture Of Ultimate Possibility

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TALKS

Adam Grant
Are You a Giver Or a Taker?

CAROLINE MCGRAW
You Don't Owe Anyone an Interaction

Sarri Gilman
Good Boundaries Free You

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CLIPS

TWOTP
BrenÉ Brown on Boundaries

Chris Lee
How To Set Boundaries In Life

Paul Ferrini
BOUNDARIES Vs Unconditional love

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PODCASTS

Tim Ferriss
How To Say "No"

AUDIO

Einzelgänger
The Power Of Walking Away

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