Think You're Stuck? You're Not, Says Seth Godin. And You Might Want To Consider If You Actually Prefer It This Way
Feeling stuck is an enemy of our own making, says Seth Godin. It's the fear of failure and resistance to change that is the very thing that's keeping us there
And this is pretty much the case for any other roadblocks we perceive in our lives that leave us feeling stuck, he argues in the second video.
The key issue when we feel stuck, he warns, is that we can get a bit too snug and warm in the holy sanctums of our comfort zones – we get accustomed to the idea of being stuck and actually take active decisions to stay there.
"Staying stuck is the reason we're stuck," he argues. "Because looking at the situation that we're in, looking at what we believe about the world around us, we come to the conclusion that it is safer and easier to stay stuck (and maybe whine about it) than it is go through the valley to the other side where unstuck lies."
If we want to push forward in whatever endeavour we are faced with, it’s essential we face the fact that it will always feel uncomfortable at first. We will most likely come up with a fair amount of not-particularly-earth-shattering stuff initially. We might make mistakes. But, it's only by braving the period of being a rank amateur - and sticking with it anyway - by edging forward, bit by bit, that we will actually and evidentially get unstuck, he says.
And ultimately, we only ever have three options to choose from, anyway, when we are in these situations - do something, don't do something - or obsess. "You can change it, you can stick with it or you can complain about it," says Godin. "But changing it is an act of forward motion. And sticking with it, accepting it, working with it is also an act on your part."
"The place to avoid is this feeling of being stuck."